Which would you value most

1966D100

1966D100

Behind my Polysphere making engine noises and
Well, finally told my roomate/best friend that i'm going to Lakeland. since day one he's had a grudge against that school, for really no good reason since he never even steped foot on the campus let alone fliped through a flyer. And according to most of my friends (all this information being relayed through him since they don't call me to hang out any more cause "its to hard to work around your work scheduel"...for christ sakes! I work at a factory with set hours, 3pm to 11pm, monday through friday. Its just that simple.)

But anyway, i keep hearing these "bad" things about Lakeland...well, mainly one. The price. Which, to be honest, can be said about any college be it a state college or private to even Ivy Legue. Its just the simple fact that, unless you get a full ride from a scholarship or the government (military service and the G.I. Bill) you are going to have to pay for your education. And the price is not something i'm over looking, i can plainly see it on the "estimated cost" of college paper in front of me. So, believe me, i'm not going into this thinking its going to be cheap or free, i know i'll be paying for it out the ass in the end, but hopefully with a job that can give me that money to pay out of my ass in the end.

But I've also been getting support by family, even some who haven't exactly, been supportive to be for a long time, like my bro. I have had family, at least three, who have all attended and graduated from that school (that fact was only learned after i had been accepted, it was not the influence to my desision. I knew of only one family member who went there at the time of college inquiry)

So i guess what i'm saying is that, would you rather value friends support or family?

Sadly, i hate to loose a friend, mainly since i don't have alot in the first place (if any of you guys meet me in real life, i am much more shy and reserved than i am on this board) And I don't make friends to easy, not because i have a hatefull personality, its just that i'm just way to shy to meet people.

As much as I want to scream F-YOU!! in his face about my college desision, i'd like to keep our parting in a more calm, gentleman lke fasion. He's always been there for me through thick and thin, and just recently has been rubbing me the wrong way about anything i put my mind on, be it college, the D100, or my just plain future.

It seems like his mind is settled on joining the military, and, having as a friend, i rather not see him get his ass shot up if he's stashed on the front lines, but i'm not going to do a total bitch fest like he is with me. I respect and understand his descsion, even if i don't like it, i'm still mature enough to respect it and his wishes. I wish the same could be said of him.

But either way, I'm not slowing down in my college effort, I AM GOING TO LAKELAND, and thats final. I have had to many oppertunities to go to college blocked by either uncontrolable or controlable circumstances and i feel like i have a good opertunity right now to reach for college, for i truely have nothing to loose and everything to gain.
 
I think you need to realize what a "true" friend is. a true friend would be happy for you. Not rag on you for it. If you "lose him as a friend" because of your college choice, it's really no big loss.:dgt:
 
I respect and understand his decision, even if i don't like it,
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Tell him that.
Tell him that you expect the same from him.

In the end, do what's right for you and go to the school that offers the program(s) that you want and need for your career.

If he, or anyone else gives you grief without presenting a logical reasoning and/or suitable alternatives for you to consider, stay your course and ignore the chaff.

The mere fact that you posted this tells me that it is distracting you.
Give your head a shake.
Get your eye back on your target.
You've done your homework on this already.
Unless someone screams and I mean SCREAMS "FIRE!", meaning they've got a good reason for you to change your mind, then stick to your decision.
And you don't have to get pissy about it, either.
Just ask, "Why?"
Evaluate the answer.
Ask them to evaluate it, too.
As soon as you ask someone to back up their concerns/demands/claims, they tend to back off if said issue is purely subjective.
You just have to make sure to let them know that you're doing what you think is best for you based on the information that you have and the resources at hand.
If things were different well then things would be different.
 
giowest said:
Jeesh, you bunch o lame brains:rolleyes:


Theyre gay!!!:giggedy: :dance:


Just kidding D[smilie=f:[/quote]

LOL!!! Hell no man, i aint that way. :D

But yeah, he has been saying "look into a state college" long after i sat down one night till 3am looking at all the state colleges and not finding what i wanted, or only half of what i wanted.

Thats pretty much it, i'm staying my cource and ignoring the hype (i held the phone about a foot away when he was talking [smilie=i: ) So yeah, if i'm wrong in the end, i'll be a gentleman and go to him "i appologize, you were right." But personaly, i see i'm in the right, whethere that brings me into debt or not. I mean, how can a college education not be a good thing? Tell me that one? :wtf:

So yeah, i'm at the point now if he wants to end our friendship, so be it, one less burden off my back then. I'll wish him well on his life and be done with it, simple as that.
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i didnt have the support of friends nor family when i first went to college. now that i graduated everyone is happy for me though. like 68 said, a true friend wont care if you going to a college they hate. I wouldnt worry about it.
 
What does he lose if you go to Lakeland instead of state?

If it's a matter of distance and time to hang out, well, get over it.
It's not the end of the world.
 
Friendships are strange things... to tell you the honest truth, I really only communicate with one of my high-school friends anymore. Life goes on, you drift apart, you make different friends. The really close ones will stay that way no matter what. A guy I grew up only two blocks from named Jereme... we really didn't start hanging out until high school, became close friends, then didn't talk for about 4 years--no animosity, mind you--we were just out doing our thing. I talk to him once or twice a week, and though he's in CA we're still closer than my best childhood friend (whom I haven't talked to since 2002) or my joined-at-the-hip high school pal who decided it would be better to do something truly evil behind my back and hope nothing ever got said.

My two best friends I made after high school... one of 'em is someone who returned my hatred for him in high school; Mopars actually made us into friends (Kevin, '71 Charger R/T). And, were it not for that, I wouldn't have really gotten to know Stretch and forgive him for owning a '78 Thunderbird and the Mal7bu. :D Through Kevin I also met Pepper-Spray Dan, and though we've spent more time causing drunken injury to one another than anything else, we're good friends who also hated each other at one point. It takes a true friend to set you on fire. :D

I met my close friend Art through his Dad, who was a customer at an auto supply I used to work at; we later worked together and formed a close bond. I met EFI Ed when I moved to Atlanta; I don't think a week has passed in 10 years that I haven't talked to him. I met Ryan (another close friend) because I was his boss at Advance. He's the kind of guy that will shoot himself in the groin if he thinks it will somehow help you out. I met Nodda through ScatPack, our friendship continued (and continues) here. Though I've never met with him face-to-face, I consider him one of my closest friends.

But I f__kin' hate Gio. ;) :D

I guess where I'm going with this is that these are people whom I know and trust with my life. Only one of them was a high-school friend, but all of them have stood by me through thick and thin, good decisions or bad. They'll tell me what they think to my face (well, Nodda won't--only over the phone, the pussy :D) whether they like it or not, and whether I like to hear it or not.

If this guy is a true friend, then he has the right--hell, the obligation--to tell you his thoughts, but those thoughts should have reason and rationale behind them, not some dreamed-up grudge against a private school. When conveying those thoughts, he should be calm and rational, not flipping out or making a scene. If he's a true friend, he'll convey his concerns in order to give you food for thought, but will stand by you whatever your decision once he's voiced his feelings. That's how I gauge my true friends... I've had a lot of fun with folks I only hung out with for a short time, but the good times had didn't amount to the same being friends with rock-solid good people.

If he thinks you're an elitist bastard for going to a private school in order to assure the best future you can, he's right--no, wait, I meant to say he's not really your friend. :D Maybe it's envy if he doesn't have such an option. Hard to say unless you sit down and calmly get to the bottom of his deal... and if he won't allow the conversation to stay even-tempered and thoughtful, then it's his wiring that's shorted to ground.

Worry not--you've got a whole life in front of you to make friends. Keep your eye on the prize, man. Someday, you'll have a successful career, a genuinely good life, and enough friends that you'll look back on this time and wonder just what the hell you were thinking...



...and when you're done thinking about the D100, you'll maybe wonder whatever became of your "friend." :D
 
D100: Friends and pals aren't the same, no matter how much they may look alike. Knowing this makes moving forward so much easier. Now, follow through with your decision, and see whether you have a friend or a pal. You won't regret doing the right thing, and a good friend won't dislike you for doing what they don't approve of.
 
Ok maybe I am a bit calloused but when it comes to friends if they don't support you in anything you choose (unless it IS a really stupid one) especially with something so big as furthering you education at the school of your choice, fuck 'em!! I'd have to agree with 68RT. Not a true friend. True friends on the other hand are VERY hard to find and thus far (other than a VERY small handful here in Michigan) 69.5 remains one of mine. If he can't deal with you moving on in your life and not liking the school when he hasn't even set foot on campus or researched it himself.....if he's pissed about you going there, it's just him being jealous. Ok I'm pretty buzzed right now so this probably doesn't make much sence....:D Anyhow A true friend and one worth keeping in your life would be telling you to go for it if it is truly what you want to do with your life. After all it is your's, not his.


*stumbles and trips off soapbox landing flat on face* :shifty::p:D

:huh::quaff::quaff:
 
LOL ...a friend will help you move... a true friend will help you pack , move, unpack and bury the bodys
 
I buried a 67 chevelle SS body once, ran over it with a D-6 and used it for fill over at the other place.:bwuhaha:
 
Thanks guys. Yeah, every single time he does talk about that school, he seems to go on a rant....pretty much about nothing. Like i said, i have family that all went to that school and my family are very close to each other, and if we see someone making a bad descsion, we're honest enough with each other to say "yo dipshit, i wouldn't do that if i were you" :D ...or something close to that. But yeah, i've got nothing but support and "thats a great school" from the ones who've attended and graduated from there.

I didn't tell him this to shove it in his face, i told him because i wanted him to know what my plans were (he still wanted me to join the Army with him, but i delayed at taking any tests, so thats the other reason he wanted to know).

So yeah, like i said, i haven't heard any good about this school spewed from his mouth, but i take it in stride. One thing my dad has told me is that, he's seen when i focus on something, i never give up until i achive my goal, whatever it may be.

It's been like that with my race car (try going to highschool, working part-time for minimum wage $5.15, doing home work, and building a race car.....yeah, i was focused thats for sure), its like that with my D100 (though it seems like i get off track at times, this is the first time I'm taking apart a vehicle, to put it back together :D ) and will now be so with my college. Indeed, i know there will be rough times ahead of me, but with all the things I've completed, none were easy and without the "rough times".

I'm just going to kind of ignore him on his opinions about my school and future choice, and once August 25th comes (freshman oriantaion and first day to move into the dorms) I won't have to see his ass. Hell, he should be thankfull, the lease on this apartment doesn't end untill October 1st, i have already put aside my half of rent and bills for September...just cause i don't see eye to eye to him on my school, doesnt mean i should lower myself to his level and act like and ass and leave him high and dry on the apartment. Believe me, the evil side wants to, but, i prefer to be more of a gentleman than a douche. So thus, possibly loosing a friend, but, preferdly not gain an enemy.

But sadly, that saying is true "Friends come and go, but enemies accumulate." :D
 
dodgechargerfan said:
Tell him that.
Tell him that you expect the same from him.

In the end, do what's right for you and go to the school that offers the program(s) that you want and need for your career.

If he, or anyone else gives you grief without presenting a logical reasoning and/or suitable alternatives for you to consider, stay your course and ignore the chaff.

The mere fact that you posted this tells me that it is distracting you.
Give your head a shake.
Get your eye back on your target.
You've done your homework on this already.
Unless someone screams and I mean SCREAMS "FIRE!", meaning they've got a good reason for you to change your mind, then stick to your decision.
And you don't have to get pissy about it, either.
Just ask, "Why?"
Evaluate the answer.
Ask them to evaluate it, too.
As soon as you ask someone to back up their concerns/demands/claims, they tend to back off if said issue is purely subjective.
You just have to make sure to let them know that you're doing what you think is best for you based on the information that you have and the resources at hand.
If things were different well then things would be different.
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Great answer Dr. Phil!!:bwuhaha:



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69.5CUDA said:
LOL ...a friend will help you move... a true friend will help you pack , move, unpack and bury the bodys
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Yup and he has done this for me countless times:shifty::toot:
 
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