Top o' the mornin' to ya nuts

[1966D100]

At the jubulant hour of 3AM I heard the most gentlest of raping (not west nor east cost) at the door of my brothers apartment , low and behold, my brothers ex, cold, drunk, and scared out of her mind because "someone was following her".

Be it fictional boogie men or not, we took her in as she proceded to plead with my brother, who oddly enough, just yesterday was about as sloshed at this time of the morning, had enough sense to know its no use arguing with a drunk person, and so he offered to give her a ride home, or if she persited to wake everyone else in the house up, a ride home in a black and white (thank god the guy up stairs is deaf, and I'm not talking about God).

And so, a small garbage can of puke and a half hour later, we got her to leave, with still some resitance because of my brothers boss (who knows of the situation) figured he'd come along as secret mediator to my brother, posing as "extra backup in case there really where guys following her". He's a large hispanic man, so not to many people mess with him :bwuhaha:.

But aside from trying to get my brothers "love" back, which failed, she also mentioned resentment of the becomings of her life. Which I know her decsions where her own, and I know exactly what she was talking about.

It seems to be a dilema here, for my brother hasn't mentioned to her about the new girlfriend he has if fear of her doing something rash, and he's happy with the life he has now and doesn't want someone to come around and destroy it on him either.

I've never had a "stalker" girlfriend, so I don't know what he's dealing with, nor do I want to see the life that he's happy with be ended by someones poor, perhaps booze filled decsion. Yet I don't think anyone wants a suicide on their hands either. I feel helpless here, I feel if I try to mediate, I feel like I'm belittling my brothers power over the situation (he has a way with people, thats why he's in entertainment business and loved by thousands on the radio), yet if I do nothing and something goes south, I'd feel about as worse with that. I want to talk to his ex (when she's not piss drunk) and try to ween her off of thoughts of my brother (which doesn't help much since he's broadcast throughout the city and country side here), or do I stand back and watch the shit hit the fan and rightfully duck [smilie=f:.

I know this is not my fight, not my situation, but something like this happened to me before three years ago, and in the end, someone died. So I can't help but feeling like I need to do something.

I ask of the wisedom of many of you guys and gals here. I honestly don't know what to do here. I love my brother and I know how much he busted his ass just to get to where he is right now (considering he droped out of high school in his junior year, never went back for a GED, and is working at a place where its comon practice to have a degree in radio where he has no degree to speak of, but has plenty of skill and to do it anyway, let alone a great boss to work for). But I fear I might start the new year staring down another casket. What the hell do I do? Thanks for listening.

 

[1966D100]

ok 4:40 AM news break,

My brother and his roommate got her home, finaly, and for good mesure and fear of her hurting herself, my brother called the police to make sure she had a safe night.

But after another half hour of me, my brother, and his roommate, we all think its best if he just has a good sit down sesion with her and just try to convice her to pretty much out right leave him alone and that she should move on with her life.

It seems I may not be needed after all, which is good, all the more comfort knowing that I think things are going to be alright when I leave this country behind. I thought vacations were supposed to be relaxing? The only relaxing day I've had was Christmas day because I ate to much turkey.

 

[XLR8R]

Duck.

 

[v8440]

That suicide crap is just a ploy to keep rattling his chain. If she was gonna do it, she'd have done it. In a very real sense it's a power play. She needs to be told in no uncertain terms that he's moved on, and she is not to contact him again. I had the same dumb shit with an ex once. I tried being nice for a reasonable amount of time, then I had to get very plainspoken and ugly a time or two. That did the trick, though she kept sending letters in the mail.

If she's told to stay away in no uncertain terms and comes around again, have her escorted off by the police. THAT will probably get the message across. If not, there's a record of her behavior started with the police.



*Edit* And for the "guys following her", tell her next time to just turn around and start following them. They'll run away quickly enough.

 

[mannye]

At the jubulant hour of 3AM I heard the most gentlest of RAPING (not west nor east cost) at the door of my brothers apartment ,

LOL... There goes a typo that got my FULL ATTENTION!:bwuhaha:

 

[mopar_man]

LOL... There goes a typo that got my FULL ATTENTION!:bwuhaha:

You're not the only one.

I would follow v8440's advice.

 

[dodgechargerfan]

At the very LEAST, your brother needs to make her fully aware of where she stands in his life.

At the very MOST, your brother needs to make her fully aware of where she stands in his life.

Beyond that, a honest, heart-felt suggestion that she get some professional help is all that should be required to clear everyone's conscience.

None of you are doctors or shrinks. Tell her that none of you are equipped (or prepared) to deal with her situation, but you all surely hope that she comes out of this in good shape. She needs to get help or get over it on her own.

Period.

As for you guys, you need to get to the point where she is just another face on the street and not someone's ex-anything. In saying that, I mean you're not responsible for what happens now. You've got to cut her loose and push in the right direction for some help. After that, it's not your battle anymore. If you let it become your battle again, this will never stop. She's a junkie and your brother is her drug.

 

[1966D100]

LOL... There goes a typo that got my FULL ATTENTION!:bwuhaha:

I got woke up at 3 am by the constant pounding on the door 5 feet away from me, it happens. I was making an attempt to be funny aparently, seems it worked any way :shifty:

But yeah, the police have her on record now and say if she shows up unwanted, they'll just pick her up and drop her back off at her place, unless she does something illegal, they can't do anything. But if she continues this action, my brother can charge her for stalking or get a restraining order of some sort. Personally he doesn't want to give her a criminal record but if she doesn't stop this, then its going to happen.

On another note, I just made another contact in Japan, so that brings my total up to three so far without even stepping foot there. All people able to get me jobs there, so I don't think I'll have a problem...from what I hear, the only problem I'll have is being chased done by a bunch of Japanese girls